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Thursday, 03 November 2011 03:36

quotes

"What you hate, do not do to your friend." -- Shabbos 31a

"Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD." -- Vayikra 19:18

"Hillel and Shammai received the Torah from them. Hillel said: 'Be of the disciples of Aaron, loving peace and pursuing peace, loving your fellow creatures and bringing them close to the Torah.' " -- Avot 1:12

"If you have done your neighbor a little wrong, let it be in your eyes great; if you have done him much good, let it be in your eyes little; if he has done you a little good, let it be in your eyes great; if he has done you a great wrong, let it be in your eyes little." -- Avot 1:6, Avot de Rabbi Nathan ch 41

"He who says, 'What is mine is yours and what is yours is thine own'—he is a saintly man." -- Avot 5:13

"A love without rebuke is no real love." -- Bereishit Rabbah, ch 54, section 3

"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." -- Berachot 17a

Shimon the Righteous was one of the last survivors of the Great Assembly. He used to say: "On three things the world is sustained: on the Torah, on the (Temple) service, and on deeds of loving kindness." -- Avot 1:2

"The world is built with chesed (loving-kindness)." -- Tehillim 89:3

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." -- Galatians 6:9

 

What you hate, do not do to your friend. ~ Shabbos 31a

Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself.  I am the LORD. ~ Vayikra 19:18

Hillel and Shammai received the Torah from them. Hillel said: Be of the disciples of Aaron, loving peace and pursuing peace, loving your fellow creatures and bringing them close to the Torah. ~ Avot 1:12

If you have done your neighbor a little wrong, let it be in your eyes great; if you have done him much good, let it be in your eyes little; if he has done you a little good, let it be in your eyes great; if he has done you a great wrong, let it be in your eyes little.  ~ Avot 1:6, Avot de Rabbi Nathan ch 41

He who says, 'What is mine is yours and what is yours is thine own'—he is a saintly man. ~ Avot 5:13

A love without rebuke is no real love. ~ Bereishit Rabbah, ch 54, section 3

The highest form of wisdom is kindness. ~ Berachot 17a

Shimon the Righteous was one of the last survivors of the Great Assembly.  He used to say: 'On three things the world is sustained: on the Torah, on the (Temple) service, and on deeds of loving kindness.'  ~ Avot 1:2

The world is built with chesed (loving-kindness).  ~Tehillim 89:3

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. ~ Galatians 6:9

 

 

Thursday, 03 November 2011 03:30

questions to ask yourself

Use these questions to evaluate your day:

        1. What were the seeds that started to affect your moderation today?
        2. Is there an area where you struggle with moderation (clothing, technology, learning, trinkets, food, alcohol, etc..)? Do you have a plan to curb your habits?
        3. Think of how you used the resources around you. Did you squander them, or were you excessive in their use?
        4. If you were on the verge of being excessive, what did you employ that helped you curb this behavior?
        5. Were you able to use prayer or meditation to help in your struggle with moderation?
        6. What do you struggle to practice in moderation?   Food, drink, study, work?   Discuss…
        7. Do you have a tendency towards asceticism (self-denial)?
              Thursday, 03 November 2011 03:27

              quotes

              "When one engages in business or in an occupation to earn money, one should not be motivated by desire for gain alone, but by the necessity of supplying his basic requirements, such as food, drink, habitation, and marriage." -- The Ways of the Tzadikkim, The Gate of Love, pg 119

              "One should not eat and drink as much as he wishes, but only as much as is necessary to insure the well-being of his body and no more." -- The Ways of the Tzadikkim, The Gate of Love, pg 121

              "The righteous eat to their hearts' content, but the stomach of the wicked goes hungry." -- Mishlei 13:25

              "Who is mighty? He who subdues his passions, as it is written (Mishlei 16:32) 'One who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and one whose temper is controlled than one who captures a city.' " -- Avot 4:1

              Rabbi Eleazar ha-Kappar used to say: "Jealousy, lust, and ambition remove man from the world." -- Avot 4:28

              "If a person who withholds himself from wine is called a sinner, how much more so is one a sinner who withdraws from all of life's enjoyments." -- Taanit 11a, 11b

              "Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city." -- Mishlei 16:32

              "If one oversteps the bounds of moderation, the greatest pleasures cease to please." -- Epictetus

              "It is not good to eat too much honey, nor is it honorable to search out matters that are too deep." -- Mishlei 25:27

              "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." -- Galatians 5:22-23

              Thursday, 03 November 2011 03:26

              questions to ask yourself

              art-questionsUse these questions to evaluate your day:

                  1. What were the seeds that started to erode your adaptibility today?
                  2. Were there circumstances where you struggled with adapting? What was your response? Did you become irritable, angry, quiet or difficult to be around?
                  3. Did situations arise where you had no control today? Did you adapt or react negatively?
                  4. Was there a situation in which something new was introduced to you? Did you seek to learn more about it or reject it because it was unfamiliar and required effort on your part?
                  5. Were you able to use prayer or meditation to help you through a new and possibly unsettling situation?
                  6. Did something unexpected happen today? What was your reaction?
                  7. What types of situations put you on edge? Out of stock menu item, late bus, bad internet connection….discuss.
                      Thursday, 03 November 2011 02:58

                      quotes

                      art-pearls

                      The LORD had said to Abram, "Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you. I will make you into a great nation, and I will bless you; I will make your name great, and you will be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you." -- Bereishit 12:1-3

                      "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—His good, pleasing and perfect will." -- Romans 12:2

                      "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace." -- Kohelet 3:1-8

                      "It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory." -- W. Edwards Deming

                      "The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out." -- Mishlei 18:15

                      "If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it." -- Mary Engelbreit

                      "And no one puts new wine into used wineskins. For if he did so, the new wine would split open the wineskins, it would be poured out, and the wineskins would be destroyed." -- Mashiach Yeshua, Luke 5:37, DHE

                      "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get." -- Forrest Gump

                      "He said to them, 'Follow me, and I will make you into fishers of people.' " -- Mashiach Yeshua, Matthew 4:19, DHE

                      "The sun rises and the sun sets, and hurries back to where it rises."   -- Kohelet 1:5

                      Thursday, 03 November 2011 02:53

                      questions to ask yourself

                      art-questionsUse these questions to evaluate your day:

                        1. What were the seeds that started to erode your generosity today?
                        2. Think of how you used the resources around you today (money, natural, etc..). Did you see a need and respond generously? Why or why not?
                        3. Were you generous in your speech today? Did you take a moment to say something positive to someone to lift him/her up?
                        4. Is there a plan today or one day this week to distribute charity?
                        5. Did you look at someone today and judge their neediness or did you help them? Is this a different response than you usually give?
                        6. Does giving make you feel superior or haughty?
                        7. Is it difficult for you to give of your possessions to help others?
                          Thursday, 03 November 2011 02:49

                          quotes

                          art-pearls"Therefore, a man should take care to be generous according to his means, to be magnanimous where magnanimity is called for…weighing all in the scales of Torah." -- The Ways of the Tzaddikim, The Gate of Miserliness, page 323

                          "People curse the one who hoards grain, but they pray God's blessing on the one who is willing to sell." -- Mishlei 11:26

                          "Give, and it will be given to you; they will return to your lap a beautiful measure pressed, crammed full and overflowing. For with the measure that you use to measure, it will be measured to you."-- Mashiach Yeshua, Luke 6:38, DHE

                          "He who wants to give and also that others should give—he is a saintly man." -- Avot 5:16

                          "Whosoever possesses these three qualities belongs to the disciples of Abraham our father: a generous eye, a humble spirit, and a meek soul." -- Avot 5:22

                          "One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty." -- Mishlei 11:24

                          "It is more blessed to give than to receive." -- Acts 20:35

                          "If one is measuring out wine, oil or the like, he must not be over-exact, but give a little more." -- Bava Basra 88b

                          "The ideal is to give correctly to a deserving poor person, with a pleasant expression." -- The Ways of the Tzaddikim, the Gate of Magnanimity, page 313

                          "For in the place where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." -- Mashiach Yeshua, Matthew 6:21, DHE

                          Thursday, 03 November 2011 02:39

                          questions to ask yourself

                          art-questionsUse these questions to evaluate your day:

                          1. Did you consider the honor of your fellow in all your actions?
                          2. Did you rise for someone who is elderly and show honor?
                          3. Did you take time to honor someone today for his/her role?
                          4. Did you do something without seeking honor? Did you do it privately or publicly?
                          5. Do you seek to be given honor?
                          6. Do you honor those who serve you, in whatever capacity that is?
                          7. Do you seek to honor and help the young?
                          Thursday, 03 November 2011 02:28

                          quotes

                          art-pearls"Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you." -- Shemot 20:12

                          "And one should not study Torah or do any good deed for the sake of honor, but only for the sake of the Creator, Blessed be He, and, ultimately, the honor will come." -- The Ways of the Tzadikkim, The Gate of Love, pg 119

                          Rabbi Eliezer said: "Let the honor of your fellow be as dear to you as your own." -- Avot 2:15

                          Rabbi Elazar of Modiim said: "If a man profanes things which are sacred, and offends the holidays and puts his fellow to shame publicly, and makes void the covenant of Abraham our father, and teaches meanings in the Torah which are not according to Halachah, even though he has a knowledge of the Torah and good works, he has no share in the world to come." -- Avot 3:15

                          Ben Zoma said: "Who is wise? He who learns from all men, as it is written (Tehillim 119:99) 'I have gained understanding from all my teachers.'"  -- Avot 4:1

                          "Who is honored? He that honors his fellow men as it is written (I Shmuel 2:30) 'For those who honor me I will honor, and those who despise me shall be treated with contempt.' " -- Avot 4:1

                          Rabbi Yochanan ben Baroka said: "Whoever profanes the name of Heaven in secret will pay the penalty in public, whether it be done accidentally or intentionally." -- Avot 4:5

                          "So then, whatever you want sons of men to do to you, do the same to them, for this is the Torah and the Prophets." -- Mashiach Yeshua, Matthew 7:12, DHE

                          "The glory of young men is their strength, gray hair the splendor of the old." ~Mishlei 20:29

                          "The wise inherit honor, but fools get only shame." ~ Mishlei 3:35

                          Thursday, 03 November 2011 02:23

                          questions to ask yourself

                          art-questionsUse these questions to evaluate your day:

                          1. What were the seeds that started to erode your gratitude today?
                          2. Did you take time to express gratitude to those around you for who they are and what they do?
                          3. Did you take time to notice the bounty in your life and express your gratitude through words or actions?
                          4. Were you able to take an unpleasant situation and see the lesson in it?
                          5. Did someone do something for you and it was difficult to be grateful? Why?
                          6. After you ate your meals today did you take time to thank Hashem for the food?
                          7. Did you thank anyone above and beyond what was necessary?
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