I myself have struggled with the fact that I sometimes keep about 80% of my promises in a given week. From my perspective, this is too high. If I were to avoid promising so much I wouldn’t have this problem! There is no reason whatsoever and all it does is build a confusing image of myself internally and externally. This is where I think a healthy relationship between honesty and trustworthiness is most evidently necessary in my life.
If I were to never commit to anything, I couldn’t possibly live a trustworthy life. Who wants a friend who will always “try to make it?” Who wants an employee who will always “try to squeeze it in?” Who wants a husband who will “maybe be faithful?” These are extreme examples but they are indicative of an honesty that is never allowing a person to reach towards a greater actualization of his or her God given potential. An honest person that is informed by the desire to build trustworthiness, that has trustworthiness in mind, will be both cautious in making promises but also extra diligent to keep the promises that are necessary to have healthy relationships. This involves both honesty with others as well as an inner honesty, honesty with oneself.
Whether we like it or not, our actions and words have a powerful impact on others. Honesty as an ideal is something that can fuel a trustworthy lifestyle. Yeshua taught us to have our “yes be yes, and no, no.” This meant two things: follow through on your decisions and avoid making vows that you’ll regret later because you were not able to come through. He was demonstrating the proper balance of honesty and trustworthiness that enables the two to enhance one another. So, in this season may we all find ourselves to be people both more honest and trustworthy in a world in desperate need for both.